I love the sound of the breezy, devil-may-care term, happy-go-lucky.
Merriam-Webster defines happy-go-lucky as blithely unconcerned and carefree. Synonyms include affable, laid-back, low-pressure, and mellow.
Perhaps more to the point, the Urban Dictionary defines happy-go-lucky as a person who is cheerful about most things, has a positive view on life, and annoys the you-know-what out of their friends. Don’t you love the quirkiness of Urban Dictionary?
Anyhow, perhaps being cheerful and endlessly optimistic is a bit annoying, but who cares? Actually, I am envious of those people because, although I have my silly moments, I am WAY too serious most the time.
So join me and my goal of lightening up. Think of all the benefits.
If you are laid-back, you’ll be less stressed out and definitely have more fun. If you have a carefree attitude, you’ll be more likely to take risks and step out of your comfort zone. If you are cheerful and have a positive attitude, people will want to be around you which will result in more friends and better relationships.
If you can become more of a happy-go-lucky person, I’d lay bets that you’ll find life more enjoyable and even more fulfilling.
Here are five ways to get you started on the path of that devil-may-care attitude:
Be a Little Silly
As I suggested in an earlier blog, unleash your silly every once in a while.
If you’re not sure how to do that, simply imitate children. My 5-year-old grandson is constantly cracking himself up. Pretend you’re a kid again and tell a silly joke, sing a silly song, wear a silly hat, make a silly face, or just think silly thoughts.
Children have that devil-may-care attitude that gives them freedom to act silly no matter who is watching. Copy some of that.
I saw this quote, “Live a life of love, honesty, appreciation, kindness, and strength. Sprinkled with a little silliness.”
Yeah! Let’s bring silly back!
If it’s either laugh or cry – choose laughter.
So what if something goes wrong or your carefully laid out plans go awry. Learn to laugh at yourself. You’re a happy-go-lucky person now, remember? Don’t take yourself so seriously.
What if life is getting you down and laughter seems a million miles away? Watch a screwball sitcom or movie, listen to a stand-up comedy routine, or check out the latest silly YouTube video. You can even laugh at an absurd situation in your life. You’ll probably giggle about it later anyway. Why not be amused by it now?
I love this quote by Henri J. M. Nouwen: “Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day. ”
Yes, many things are out of your control, but you can choose to be joyful. Yes, you can!
Don’t let stupid stuff you won’t even remember in a few years sap your good vibes. Mellow out! Don’t expect other people, events, or circumstances to bring you joy either. Your happiness must come from within. Focus on the good things in your life, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. Bring joy to others and you will increase your own. Try to do one thing every day that beings you some bliss.
Happy-go-lucky people smile a lot.
Studies confirm that each time you turn that frown upside down, your brain has a let’s-be-happy party. So just do it!
Think of a special moment with your spouse, or something silly your grandchild said, or a funny joke – fake it if you must. A beaming smile is magical because this facial gesture not only helps you, but invites others to smile with you and feel better too.
Whatever it takes, smile more and bring a little sunshine into your life and those around you.
“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing,” George Bernard Shaw famously said.
Being playful can boost your creativity, make you forget your worries, and connect you to the world in a fun and interesting way.
Not sure where to start? If you’ve forgotten how to play, take notes from your grandchild or even your dog. Finger paint, play badminton, have a costume party, or get out a favorite board game you loved as a child. Have a race with your dog. Keep a favorite toy on your desk. Put some funky music on and dance like crazy while you do chores. Be a bit mischievous.
There you go, five ways to start you down the path of becoming a happy-go-lucky person. Focus on the lighter side of life and quit stressing out so much.
Who knows, if you adapt some of these strategies it may even give you the emotional distance you need to come up with creative solutions to all those problems you’re worrying about.
And you’ll definitely be happier!